As typical of having been on vacation, I came home to a to do list longer than my arm. Included in this was standing up for myself in a couple forums. One with someone close to me, who is aging, and not a force to be reckoned with, another being the car rental place who tried charging me $179 more than what was contracted for. I’m a passive person by nature. I hate confrontation, but I’ve learned that in order to be in business for myself, and in order to take care of myself, I have to learn to do so.
Prayed the whole time I was handling both situations. The first one was hardest, telling someone what they are saying is false, untrue, no matter how strongly they rebelled against it. And keeping my cool when I was being accused of something that I didn’t do, or would never do! I think we were both shocked at how I handled the situation. While I will lose some money in the deal, it is nothing compared to what could have been lost, had I not stood up for myself. I will recover from this. And I took NO satisfaction in having to tell someone I care about that what they believe to be true, was in fact, untrue. But I did it.
Alongside that is the realization and reality that they are losing ground. It’s easy to take others for granted, I mean, we do that to live. We assume when we leave our yards, that all drivers we come in contact with are sober, able, and alert. We have to drive defensively, and consciously, but we can’t leave our yard on a daily basis and think about the possible dangers of accidents, and sadly, more recently terrorists.
I was cleaning my studio and heard gun shots. Now, I’ve lived around guns my entire life. In past I wouldn’t think even twice about it, but not anymore. I stop what I am doing and listen. Say a prayer, and then try to move beyond what could be disastrous fear. We have to have faith that we will go do our errands, go enjoy our vacation, if we are fortunate enough to have that opportunity, and know we will be home afterwards, tired, cranky, but alive and well.
I have heard some very painful, painful stories this past few days. People that I know and care about are hurting, some with physical pain which in itself is a life changer, and some experiencing tremendous loss. It’s always unfortunate when someone passes around the holidays. The holidays are tough enough for most of us anyway. And November has bee notoriously a very difficult month for me. No matter what I focus on, and plan to counter the anniversaries of some very painful life changing events, it still comes up to smack me across my face, and try its best to rip my heart out through my throat. I know this too shall pass. It does. But not without feeling it first. I know I have no choice but to keep walking. I think it was Churchill who said, and I quote “When in hell KEEP WALKING!” Exactly. Because we give in to the challenges, we stay right there in hell. But sometimes it’s hard to forge ahead, and in the direction of where we need to go. Sometimes the best part of a day is knowing you survived it. It’s just a fact.
I have numerous things going on in my life, mostly all good, but not without stress. The November crap hit me yesterday, and while it’s only Tuesday, I feel like it should be NEXT Friday!
The holidays are soon approaching. Time to practice more patience with others, time to go the extra mile to help a neighbor, family member or friend. Time to make time for someone who needs a hug, or a smile. Time to let people you know how much you appreciate them, and even though we naturally take things for granted, many of us will experience difficulties that will remind us of how we do just that.
Here’s hoping your day is good, your life is going in the direction you want it to, and that you have a warm, comfortable bed to retire in tonight. The older I get the more I come in touch with the fact that life really is about the little things, not the grandiose plans or dreams. It’s about putting one foot in front of the other regardless of the terrain, and doing our very best on days when we know we aren’t feeling our best. It’s just a fact of life. My father used to tell us “to pull ourselves up by our boot straps!” “You’re the only one who can do it for yourself”. Today I can say, gratefully, that I did what needed to be done today, and while it wasn’t all pleasant, I did great. Hope you did, too!