Another Christmas over, a new year quickly approaching. Early December I celebrate my birthday, and while most of my life I haven’t liked being “a December baby”, I like that it is just a couple weeks before ringing in a new year, and assists me divinely in reviewing and renewing my year.
This has been a great year for me. In January I went on an amazing cruise with my best girlfriend. Spent time in Old San Juan, visited St. Croix, Barbados, and more. It was great. I came home to new windows, thus a new home, and new outlook. This summer I spent time in Maine (Love New England, perhaps that’s why I’ve always lived here?) and got to spend a week with my siblings this summer, and visited my dad.
I travel taught, and in my home studio a few classes, and rang in another year cancer free. (The Lucky 7!). My mother and brother survived another cancer (both their third), and all in all, I’m really in touch with what is important to me. Have been doing some soul searching as to what direction I would like to go in 2017, of course, all dependent on what my maker has planned for me. But I have some really nice thoughts and plan to focus on the positive, and I have a lot of positive in my life.
I’ve come to realize (finally) that my life, my purpose isn’t any greater than anothers. Ego baby, ego! And while I know not if I have purpose now, for the most part, I’m happy with who I am, where I am, and in what direction I want to head.
I appreciate the little things in life, some that unless you’ve struggled financially, or with some things that I’ve gone through, you may not appreciate. Likewise, in reverse. I met a financial goal this year that was two years in the making. It was not easy, but I succeeded, and I’m pretty pleased with myself. Still, humbled in life, and feeling very grateful for my abilities, for all that I have (and have worked hard for). I know that I’m blessed with much. Gratitude.
I redid 75% of the inside of my house, with my moms help. It’s looking great!
I’ve also been looking at how I am planning for my own future. I question whether I’ve become complacent in my relationship status of single. I don’t think anyone sets out to be single for 11-12 years, but during this time I’ve grown so much. A friend told me how much I’ve matured. Hey, it’s overrated! But seriously, I do not look to another, and certainly a partner to make my life better, I look to myself. It’s like looking to someone else to make me happy, content. I have made myself happy. I’ve had pain, but it doesn’t define me. I have grown to understand its existence, and I live a pretty happy life!
For the most part, I live a pretty peaceful existence. While many tell me I spend far to much time alone, I shrug my shoulders. It is within the time that I have spent alone that I have been able to define myself. When involved I tend to become a caregiver, and lose my identity. But I’ve also been involved with men who really haven’t been able to provide stability, I’m very aware of that, and these men were men that I chose, and would not again.
Yeah, I’m pretty happy with myself. I need to lose weight, I need to get working on the book I promised myself I would do before I die, and I chuckle at how I think if I don’t write it, I’ll live longer! But most of us know it doesn’t work that way! If I died tomorrow, my six -seven years of blogging will have to account for the book I never finished.
Each time I see my dad, and I see how much he’s aging, and failing, I cry when we part ways because I don’t know if I’ll ever see him again. While that’s not a great way to think, it’s practical, he’s in his 80s. He has lived longer than either parent. I don’t think I will live as long as my parents, my mother who is three years younger than my dad. I don’t dwell on death, but I also don’t fear it. Grateful for that.
And I think that 2017 is going to bring another one of my favorite things…. to be knocked out for surgery. I absolutely LOVE this. I do. 99, 98, 97…
Hope you had a great holiday and wishing you a Happy 2017, if I don’t write before then! Shine! Let yourself shine, even if you’re being dished crap. Because it’s all over so quickly.
Love to you!