The more I rest, the better I feel. I have not been pushing myself physically, but allowing myself to rest, to sleep as long as I need to, nap, and to go to bed early and allow my body to heal.
I was thinking today about the things that make me happy. They are simplistic, are not “things” but “moments”.
This made me think about the common traits of happy people, or people who choose happiness. I first thought about the difference and changes I’ve made in my life to improve the quality of life. Then I thought about particular people that genuinely are happy, giving thought to how they act, talk, and the things they do. I made a list, and then googled “traits of happy people” to compare the two lists. I was very pleased to find the two lists very similar! Here is what I came up with:
They live in the present, not the past
They forgive others and move on, do not hold grudges or resentments
They live their life with an open mind and willingness to try new things, etc
They focus on helping others, bringing happiness to others, not to themselves
They are active, social, busy with family and friends
They are grateful for what they do have, not in constant pursuit of “more” and feel that have “enough”
They take care of themselves, physically, emotionally, spiritually
They have passion in their life and persue it
They appreciate nature
They know who they are, do not seek approval or validation outside of themselves
They enjoy laughter
They nourish and place value internally, not externally
They live within their means
They are kind
They do not strive for perfection
I have many happy people around me. And on the days when I feel good physically, I am happy. Even on my worst days I search for something to be grateful for, and think of something that makes me happy, ever vigilant of the claws of depression. This is how I live my life now, and the majority of the time, it works. I am so grateful for the time spent in Alanon meetings, therapy, support groups as all of these have helped me see my shortcomings, and the areas in my life that weren’t working or keeping me from happiness. I have learned so much about myself, and I’m excited to say… I do most of what is on this list…
Have a happy day today, if you set your mind to! Thank you all who messaged or commented to me on my last post. Everyday is getting a little bit better. Hugz to you all!
Is there anything you’d like to add to this list? Do you possess any of these traits? Are you happy?
I’m a pretty happy person based on this list. Far from perfect, I work daily to be optimistic, to choose happiness over misery. I am grateful and can find good in any situation. I